On Thursday, July 24, 1997, Chuti woke up early and made me a delicious breakfast at his place. That really made my day. He‘s a great chef.

I told my husband about a paper I wrote in 1988, in the beginning of grade 9, while I was in French Immersion. It was titled ‘Les Qualités d’un bon Epoux’, which translates to ‘The Qualities of a good Husband’. I wrote this over 21 years ago, two and a half years after I came to Canada, and eleven days BEFORE Chuti moved to Canada. And I got exactly what I described. I just found it and I thought I would share it with you.

We had a lot of great things going for us. After all, we had known each other practically our whole lives and had been dating for 8 years before we said our “I do’s”.  So, how were our early days? Well, I guess I would say it was a mixed bag. There was that whole honeymoon period, so that was great. We had fun and all that. However, the differences in our personality started to have an impact on living together day to day. Read my blog on personalities to fully comprehend what I am going to describe. Chuti is a high C/S combination and I am a D/I combination which means we butted heads on certain things. The main thing was housework. Yeah, you read right…. HOUSEWORK. I was never up to snuff. This battle started during our honeymoon. So, what`s a girl to do? The worst part of it was of course I wasn’t very good at it. I tried, but as Yoda says ‘Do or do not… there is no try.’ This went on for a few years until two miraculous things happen.

No, this is not the usual rant about the guys in my life and them leaving the seat up so that we girls fall in or whatever the usual issues are. Girls, I think you will be dutifully impressed and I hope guys, you will think very carefully about what I am about to share.

The first time we met was in Nigeria. I do not know exactly how old I was, but it was around the age of 4. Our parents were all teachers working in Nigeria. We lived about 45 minutes apart and saw each other often enough.